Book review Loving what is - The Chief Happiness Officer Blog

Book review Loving what is - The Chief Happiness Officer Blog When you argue with reality, you lose. But only 100% of the time. This quote by Byron Katie sums up the central message of her book Loving what is. The book is about The Work, a very simple process developed by the author, to help people inquire about their own beliefs and thinking. The process is astonishingly simple. For every stressful thought, ask yourself these four questions: 1: Is it true? 2: Can I absolutely know that its true? 3: How do I react when I think that thought? 4: Who would I be without that thought? And then you turn the statement around. The process is described in depth at thework.org. The book explains the process in depth, and contains many transcripts of Byron Katie doing the process with people. And it seems to work. In a very short time, people are led to deep insights about their own thinking. People see, that its not the problem itself thats hurting them its their thinking about that problem. Change your thinking, and the pain goes away. Contrast this with normal therapy, where you can spend a long time, sometimes years, looking for the root cause of your problem, when its not the problem you need to solve its your thinking about the problem. Once the pain caused by your thinking goes away, youre also much more free to deal with the problem itself. So the central message is to take full responsibility for what youre feeling. If youre upset, its never anybody elses fault. Nobody but you, can make you feel good or bad. And you cant take responsibility for other peoples actions or thoughts either. Thats freedom, huh? I recommend the book highly. It was very inspiring and uplifting to see, that radical, positive changes in peoples attittudes towards problems, can be be brought about so quickly. So while it may seem, that people are often stuck in their problems, there is a way out. Thanks for visiting my blog. If you're new here, you should check out this list of my 10 most popular articles. And if you want more great tips and ideas you should check out our newsletter about happiness at work. It's great and it's free :-)Share this:LinkedInFacebookTwitterRedditPinterest Related